What did you learn from your most painful life experience?

This post is a copy of my answer from  Quora. Read and share.

1. Don’t expect people to be honest with you because you were honest with them. People lie to make themselves look and feel good.
2. Don’t believe everything you are told. People will say and do anything to gain favours from you.
3. If you have to be someone else to please them or be accepted, they are just not worth it.
4. Always put your happiness first. This is not to say you should be selfish unnecessarily.
5. If it causes you to lose sleep, get rid of it.
6. Love is in action, not words. If he says it a lot and does not show it(or shows it when it suits him), walk away.
7. Everytime you talk about your painful experience, you have to relive it. Learn to stop talking about it.
8. If they tell you they are confused, reduce their confusion by taking yourself out of that situation that seems so ‘complex’ in their mind. This may be difficult and so I suggest you prepare yourself mentally and emotionally.
9. Know when to refrain from giving too much information. Your attempt at being transparent will be used against you in the most hurtful way.
10. Accept that sometimes the pain never goes away and learn to live with it. However, don’t let it stop you from moving on(I am still struggling with this).

What Am I Supposed To Do In My 20s??

What am I supposed to do in my twenty’s? I am certain a lot more people have wondered about this exact thing in their lifetime(I know I have). Anyway, so on the 12th of May, 2015, I was going through my Quora Digest like I do every morning and I read the excerpt of  Amrisha Vohra‘s answer to What am I supposed to do in my early 20’s.  Since I was intrigued, I went ahead to read the complete answer. It made perfect sense to me, although I am in the mid point of my 20’s and it will hardly be considered early by some people. I made a decision to try and apply this to my life(hence the slight change in title). Some I have already done, others I am still in the process of doing and the rest, well, I am yet to do because I am determined to complete this list. So I added her answer to my reading list, I printed a copy of the list and stuck it on my cubicle wall at work and I read it everyday(I have a lot of noteworthy articles stuck on my cubicle wall) ☺☺. And finally, today, I have decided to post it on my blog so here goes:

• Make mistakes. Learn from them. Experience is the best teacher.
• Dare to fall in love.
• Take risks.
• Learn something new.
• Live alone at-least for some time.
• Travel alone.
• Make friends with people who are of different age, culture, speak a different language and are much different than you are.
• Learn the importance of saving.
• Join a cause you are passionate about. Stick to it!
• Read a lot! write a lot!
• Love your parents! Spend quality time with your family.
• Live in the moment. Do not regret the past, or fear the future.
• Learn to trust the right people. How? By trusting the wrong ones first!
• Do not compare yourself to anybody else.
• Exercise, eat healthy, become fit.
• Spend your money on experiences, not luxuries. Make memories.
• Try out new things. Experiment! Get to know yourself better.
• Try your hand at adventure sports.
• Learn to say no.

Consider these points shared and apply it anyway you wish. Also, remember to enjoy life at any point in time. Peace out!!! XOXOXOXO ❤