“Stop lying, you’re not single.”
“Why are you denying your boyfriend? “
” Really? You’re single? “
” Beautiful girls are not single.”
“You’re too pretty to be single.”
” Is it your decision or the guys are just not coming your way? “
” How do you cope with being alone? “
” So when do you think you will get a boyfriend? “
” So don’t you want to get married? “
” At this age you should have a boyfriend and be in a serious relationship “
Whew!! My ears have suffered. These are a few of the random statements my ears are tired of hearing. I am writing this post to declare my position once and for all, so if anyone ever brought it up again, I’ll just direct them to this post.
The first guy I ever loved (for many years) slept with my cousin(sister). No one is perfect but I saw him as the perfect being. He was nice, sweet and kind-hearted and although we were never in an official relationship, it still does not change the fact that he did that to spite me. My cousin did me one by finally telling me the full story. It helped me to get him out of my head after so many years – he has no idea that I know the full story and if he decides to read this post then he will find out. I realised that he wasn’t worth my time or effort and he definitely wasn’t worth fighting for anymore( I really wanted this one). So today I can walk about knowing that his chapter is closed and I’m perfectly okay with it.
The guy I dated cheated in plain sight and lied about it. Of course after we broke up, he didn’t waste time in dating the girl he swore he felt nothing for and there was nothing going on between them. At that point, I was just grateful that I wasn’t pulled back into his web of lies🎭. It was also very easy to get over him after I found out he had tried to get with my friend before me(which he had lied to me about telling me my friend was trying to get with him).
The second guy I fell in love with, hmmmm, this one eh!! You think physical abuse is the worse form of abuse, wait till you experience emotional and mental abuse. I honestly thought women were the most manipulative beings on earth but he proved me wrong. You won’t even know you are being manipulated and any friend who tries to advice you seems like the enemy👿. This one did me the most damage and I am currently still working through this one. With time you learn to live with and accept all the hurts and disappointments😭😭. I think I have come a long way, my heart is still beating❤❤❤ and I am still somewhat sane. It’s no use trying to relive what I went through by writing it, but I will let you know his excuse which came 2 years late by the way (the things people say when they are finally ready to confess, smh). “… I was never the kid who got all the attention from fine babes and stuff. And then all of a sudden…somewhere in my life it’s like I start getting attention from girls, you seemed to have come back and some other ladies… I was confused and very stupid. I couldn’t really make a choice… it’s unusual for some of us. It’s like a dream come true.” Like WTF???!!!!!! 😨😨😱😱😱
Yes, I’ve had some almost boyfriends. For some, it wouldn’t have worked out because they can’t stand my principles and strong personality (they claim I have high standards) and for others, because I spotted red flags.
Three strikes is more than enough, more than anyone deserves to handle so please cut me some slack. And pardon me when I decide that I will rather be single than trust myself to human beings who have a tendency to be fickle. It is only by the grace of God that I have maintained my sanity. When my relationship status changes, I will alert all “worried” observers. Until then, please allow me to concentrate on the things that matter most. Peace out lovers, xoxoxo!!!
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